We waste so much time wishing for the moon and wanting things that might not even make us happy and lose sight of things that really matter. We have become too busy and do not make time to smell the roses.
Last Friday my girlfriend and I decided to spend the evening together at my home. We had a nice simple meal and shared a good bottle of wine. We caught up on a whole lot of stuff and just chilled out.
Beyond drinks and a meal we had no specific game plan. We listened to some music from the past and regaled each other about all sorts of silly stuff. The point is we had so much fun and I laughed so much that by Saturday morning I had sore muscles.
We discussed some of the most absurd pick-up lines we had ever heard and really rolled around in laughter. It is indeed amazing that you can meet impressive men who can engage you in sensible debates about the state of the world but when they open their mouths to get you interested in them you wonder if they have a screw loose. Some of the pick-up lines we have heard either make you want to bash the man or dissolve in embarrassment.
My girlfriend and I spent a cosy evening at home and only parted the following morning after 6am. We had never done this so it was quite nice. It was a refreshing change from stuff we have done in the past.
I am not suggesting that you deprive yourself of sleep and spend time with a good friend, but it might be just the thing you need to get rid of stress. On the other hand the weather is getting cooler and just the right time to start planning indoor activities.
Much as you might love your other halves, you cannot spend all winter in bed with them, so you need to dig deeper into your bag of tricks to ensure yourself a fun-filled winter.
Unleash the chef in you and make some of those love and warmth-filled dishes you have been dying to serve friends and family. Start a winter film or book club and invite a few close friends. Perfect your poker playing skills or learn to play bridge. Yes I said it — bridge — it is a very good card game and not only for the elderly. You could host music appreciation evenings!
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Stock up on coal, firewood, herbal teas, some good wines and spirits. Learn how to make dry martinis and serve them to members of your winter film or book club.I like to spend my winter in hibernation. I am not a very happy person when the sun forgets to show up. The only way I can stay in touch with the people I love is to cook and invite them over for meals.
You could turn winter into your month of love and gratitude — the season when you do things for the people who matter to you. You can turn it into your time to give thanks for the companionship your family and friends share with you throughout the year.
Winter is also a good time to work through the clutter in your home. Get rid of books that are not part of a collection that you have accumulated over the years and donate them to a library or any organisation that sells second hand books to raise funds for cancer patients or animals in distress.
Encourage members of your family to join you in getting rid of some of all the clothes and shoes you never wear. You can sell them and raise extra cash for a family get together or for your church’s soup kitchen. If your church does not have a soup kitchen you could use the money to start one. There are many homeless people who would welcome a warm bowl of soup.
The most important thing is to find balance and you could use the quiet cold months to do that. Winter comes halfway through the year so it is a perfect time to balance your happiness books, check on your love thermometer, evaluate your professional prospects and re-establish your pulse on family relations.
This winter, call a friend, a sister, a brother or colleague and spend some time together — grab a bag of nuts, a few beers and kickback — no pressure. Relax and get your groove back in time for summer. Whatever you do, let love and friendship be your compass.
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