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Learn to give an emphatic no if you do not agree

DO not judge me if I do not want to always agree with you.

“But let your communication be, yea, yea and nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh evil.” (Matthew 5:37 KJV).


No is an answer and it does not mean when one says no they are not manifesting Christian qualities. A lot of believers have been victims of abuse because they cannot say “no”. To be a Christian does not mean you agree with everyone. We must understand that being able to stand truthfully for what you believe in is a mark of a true believer. It is not a sin to tell someone that you cannot do something for them.

A lot of times when someone comes and asks for money people have a tendency to say they will do it when in fact they want to say no because they know they will not be able to fulfil that pledge. The Bible says let your no be a no, and your yes be a yes. Learn to say no. Many Christians are victims because they can’t just say no.

The sin Ananias and Sapphira committed was that they lied. They could have said we want to give, but we won’t give all. They died because they were not truthful. Some women and men are married to wrong people because they could not just say no.

Let your no be a no and your yes a yes. Don’t make empty promises. People of integrity are people of their word. They are people of a few words. The amplified version says a firm “yes” or “no” doesn’t compromise your faith. A firm yes or no, not maybe or I will see. Avoid binding yourself by your words because you are afraid of what people will think of you if you don’t agree. Learn to say no.

In one of my books, Truthfulness, I wrote on qualities of a mature believer and integrity was one of the keys. The book paints a picture of a perfect Christian and expresses how your maturity can be measured by your words. You can only judge if someone is mature by how they speak.

A lot of believers don’t know what they stand for. At times people lie because of fear and this fear cripples them from being truthful and firm. The Bible says we shall be judged on account of the words we spoke. Imagine all the times you were not truthful and allowed yourself to compromise because of fear.

I have seen people who can let someone walk out of the house with bad breath and be afraid to tell them the truth. Learn to be honest, but use wisdom in your approach. When you feel like you may offend the person, use wisdom to express yourself to them. Others have allowed their friends to entrap them because they were afraid of being truthful. Learn to defend your values and stand for what you believe in.
God bless you.

Humphrey Mtandwa is an anointed minister of the gospel and teacher of the Word based in South Africa. He has written several books including The Enoch Generation, Truthfulness and Theophany. He blogs at and can be contacted via e-mail or whatsapp on +27 610286350.

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