BY HUMPHREY MTANDWA
One of the most disheartening statements someone can say to a person in pain is: “I understand what you are going through.” In essence, the statement can be true, but people handle challenges differently. People deal with trauma differently and some take time to fully recover from a traumatic situation. Man thrives well in a group or among others and this need for company opens up man to possibilities of rejection. Rejection can be referred to as part of business of this world. Each and every individual has suffered rejection in one form or another.
If unresolved, rejection can create wounds and scars that a person can carry throughout their lives and this affects their ability to make sound decisions. A person who has gone through a heartbreak can have difficulties finding love again. As the church, there are issues we ignore and yet the Bible speaks of how Jesus was sent to heal the brokenhearted. Many people are in pain and they dress up the emotional wounds and walk as if everything was normal.
The Bible says that Jesus is not a high priest who is unable to sympathise with our weakness (Hebrews 4:15). Jesus suffered rejection and went through a traumatic experience at the cross. He not only understands our pain, but He also suffered the same emotional pains and through His suffering provided a way for us to find comfort and healing through Him. We as the church are supposed to be a place where people come with their burdens and issues and we help them offload these baggages.
Rejection is a significant source of pain for many people and through the Word we realise even Jesus experienced it. Him experiencing it shows us He understands our pain and that He shares our burdens. The life of Jesus on earth shows us a saviour who not only came to redeem us, but also went through the pain we experience in our day-to-day life.
The devil would want you to keep that pain and hide that grief, but I believe Jesus paid the full price already and set an example for us. It’s time to accept him and his ability to help you deal with whatever traumatic situations you may be facing. People may not fully understand your pain, but there is a person who knows all and sees all. He has gone through the same suffering and he can help you offload all the burden. All you have to do is talk to him about it.
I have read a proverb that says: “rejection means a new door of acceptance is about to open.” Don’t focus on those doors that have closed, but focus on how God will use any situation to your advantage. The challenge is, people always focus on the pain which stops them from seeing a way out of the circumstance they are in. Jesus, after he cried out: “My God why have you forsaken me”, He later rose from the dead with his father’s adoration and praise. He could have focused on the rejection and it would have affected him and stopped him from defeating the devil, but he had victory.
Don’t focus on the pain and the rejection, even Jesus was rejected too. He has created a way for us to find healing through Him. Cast all your cares upon him for he cares for you.
God bless you.
- Humphrey Mtandwa is an anointed minister of the gospel and teacher of the Word based in South Africa. He has written several books including The Enoch Generation, Truthfulness and Theophany. He blogs at mtandwa.blogspot.com and can be contacted via e-mail or WhatsApp on +27 610286350.