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‘Mtukudzi disowns daughter’

An upcoming book revealing sensational secrets of Zimbabwe’s international music legend Oliver Mtukudzi sheds light on the musician’s strained relationship with his daughter, Selmor, also a singer.

Tuku and daughter-Selmor in-happier-times.-(Foto-credit---Shepherd-Mutamba)

Tuku and daughter-Selmor in-happier-times.-(Foto-credit—Shepherd-Mutamba)

Titled Tuku Backstage and set to be published before the end of the year, the book was written by Tuku’s former publicist and journalist, Shepherd Mutamba.

Extracts from a chapter “Daughters” exclusively made available to The Standard reveal how the relationship between Tuku and his daughters, Selmor and Sandra, from his first marriage to Melody Murape, had collapsed irretrievably after Selmor (31) made sensational accusations in the media, in 2012, that the superstar was a neglectful father. She said if Tuku was supportive, she would have been somewhere in life.

We publish the extracts below where Selmor’s comments provoked Tuku’s wrath in the explosive book:

Selmor’s remarks devastated Tuku, he did not see the comments coming. He never envisaged his daughter sharing, with the whole world, her opinion of him.

I met many people who, after reading Selmor’s story, thought Tuku was just a pretentious father who does not apply the same family values that he espouses in most of his own music. Others viewed him as a greedy and despicable father deserving public humiliation and posted comments on social networks supporting Selmor.

Others who actually deify Tuku did not know what to say about the man.

After his daughter’s remarks, were splashed in the media, Tuku stopped eating well, for several days, sometimes skipping breakfast and lunch altogether and surviving only on one meal a day — supper.

His health took a serious battering but he forced himself to work and fulfill prior bookings for shows.

Tuku has a history of intestinal ulcers, that relapsed with serious intensity, most likely triggered by worry and the eating disorder.

At breakfast, in Nyanga, (for a show) Tuku did not finish just a single egg and settled for a tiny glass of fruit juice after Daisy (Tuku’s wife) insisted that he took something at least.

That drink was all he had and nothing at lunch. His diabetic condition deteriorated.

His state of health required hospital admission and weeks of rest from work to recuperate. His body was frail, his face evidently emaciated. He became skeletal like the Auschwitz survivors. Everyone seemed to annoy him. The relationship with his daughter had collapsed.

Below Tuku comments publicly, for the first time, in the book, on the state of relationship with his daughters, particularly Selmor:

“I have disowned her (Selmor) because she is not my daughter. If she was my daughter she would not say such bad things about me. None of what she says is true. And what makes her say those things now? If she had issues with me she must have talked to me as family and not having to go to the press. I think she hates me so badly she wishes that I die.

“I am hurt to the core of my heart. I did my part as a parent and sent her to school and supported her musical career, even playing with her in my own band and taking her on tour overseas, not because she was good but I wanted to promote her career and inviting her to many of my events to enable her to work and earn a living.”

Tuku Backstage also reveals the failed relationship between Tuku and his first born daughter, Sandra (35), who does not have very kind words, in the book, for the music icon who turns 62 next week and set to release his 63rd album soon.

24 Responses to ‘Mtukudzi disowns daughter’

  1. Mkhululi September 14, 2014 at 12:11 pm #

    If he is such a good father why would his daughters complain,above all a good father does not abandon his children becoz they wronged,instead u bring them closer n show them the right path

    • chipomasi September 14, 2014 at 12:20 pm #

      True.he must admit.

    • tafamutekwe September 15, 2014 at 8:51 am #

      Parenting is such an intricate and delicate process; more so distant parenting as in the case of the great Tuku and children from his first failed marriage. Children will always hold you accountable for the breakup that resulted in them being “fatherless.” It becomes even more complicated when the same absent parent sires more children with a new spouse and the first children will tend to see you as doting on those children from the new wife. Tuku, being a mature singer and person should be able to appreciate these facts. Disowning your own children for airing their feelings (even in public) was a grave mistake on his part. it is a pity all those who purports to be close to him, including Daisy ( the current wife), and other close relatives, failed to help him appreciate the A-Z of good parenting. Where I in Tuku’s shoes, I would ask myself why all my children from an earlier relationship find my parenting of very poor quality. The good thing is, it is never too late to reconcile with your own flesh and blood.

      • tonge pa September 15, 2014 at 12:19 pm #

        i just find it hard to believe this. how can tuku be such fast to react this way against his own children. well, he ought to calm down n try n sort out the issues as a gentleman. for d daughters, they ought to have found a better way to address their issues to their father not necessarily through d press. BOTH SIDES CALM DOWN n find amicable way to sort out ur issues instead of pouring it to d whole world.

    • chakuta September 17, 2014 at 12:51 pm #

      i dont think you are correct my friend to take sides with the daughter, Can the girl tell us how she started her music career. Anyone who followed Selmor’s musical growth can agree that she was nurtured, trained and promoted by Tuku himself. If not let Selmor tell us the band that did the job. She is just a bloody lier and I hate her for that.

  2. Ndizvo September 14, 2014 at 2:20 pm #

    Surely Mukoma Tuku, Your relationship with your children can not be a matter for public discussion.
    You are and will continue to be their father. You must continue to give whatever is best for them and
    you will be a wise father. If need be, sit down as a family and resolve burning issues semhuri.

  3. givemore September 14, 2014 at 2:42 pm #

    Going to the press by the daughter is subject to conciliation but this one writing a book is beyond reapair.If he is a good father how then could he write a book, and a book will be there for everyone to read for the whole life.What Selmor said in the press can be retrievable unlike a book.Ndibaba rudzii vasinagade criticism, Is it his own idea or shanje dzemadzimai nevena ndidzo dzave kutonga?Tave kuda chokwadi “paternity test sa baba Shero” then vozoita disown havo>>>>

  4. Kufandada September 14, 2014 at 2:55 pm #

    The girls shamed their father and the father daughter relationship broke down when they went to the press.The book is just confirming it forever.The girls are jealous about Daisy,thats all there is to it.They are adults and must live their own life.Tuku is not there to spoon feed adults children for life.
    Tuku go further and declare,pay back the roora to the son in law,that you will do the rukawo (identify their burial place) only because you brought them into the world,and that they are welcome to come and shed crocodile tears on your lifeless body only after you are dead.Disrespectful children are like vipers,they deserve to be disowned.Hark!

  5. Predator drone September 14, 2014 at 3:30 pm #

    tinei nazvo,munoda kurohwa mese stereki! kikkkkkkk.

  6. Wasu September 14, 2014 at 5:14 pm #

    But somehow Selmor is wrong. Remember the sons of Noah? You dont laugh at your father’s weaknesses. Remember he has another wife now. Daisy ndiye ane mhoswa apapa. But Tuku cannot keep on looking after an overgrown married daughter forever. Tuku on the other hand should extend an olive branch kumukundawo paite peace apa

  7. Wasu September 14, 2014 at 5:15 pm #

    But somehow Selmor is wrong. Remember the sons of Noah? You dont laugh at your father’s weaknesses. Remember he has another wife now. Daisy ndiye ane mhoswa apapa. But Tuku cannot keep on looking after an overgrown married daughter forever. Tuku on the other hand should extend an olive branch kumukundawo paite peace apa sababa

  8. Mabasa September 14, 2014 at 9:23 pm #

    Some daughters fight the wars of their divorced mothers. One day Selmor will regret her actions. Why is she so disrespectful of her father?

  9. Chazezesa September 15, 2014 at 6:45 am #

    That Tuku has permitted it to to be written in his book still shows how transparent he is. While we tend to view such icons like him as perfect and condemn them for any crack in their lives, we tend to forget that public figures, as all flesh and blood, also have a vulnerable side to them. VaTuku, If this is a crack in your life, may he that reads in this generation and in that to come, learn from the best. Such things happen, even to the best of us. We still hope that,so long you are alive, we shall read a sequel to the book that speaks of the reunion of you and your daughter. Yet it is clear, this is the best way you thought the issue should be handled, in your wisdom. Even the best of us have a crack somewhere…and few are selfless enough to chronicle it in a book. You have pursued your gift and now are an icon. Most people that will judge you here are not worthy to appear in any book for any reason whatsoever. They even use pseudo-names to comment on this post.

  10. SHANJE HADZIVAKE September 15, 2014 at 1:35 pm #

    Mabasa spot on.Selmor seems to be fighting her divorced mother’s war which is most unfortunate. At 31 she still wants her father to look after her like a school girl? Most divorced mothers tell their children bad things about the father but this is very regrettable in the long run. Children should always stay out of their parents’s differences & never take sides.

  11. Mamelogy September 15, 2014 at 7:39 pm #

    Hazvineyi nesu izvi…kutobvongodza muto kuseva kweakaguta…selmor ngaite munhu pane vanhu naiyewo tuku practice what u sing

  12. Fungayi September 15, 2014 at 8:01 pm #

    No one is perfect and it is wrong to judge others and make dangerous conclusions like we are some god. Seymour should give a full account what her father did and what she thinks he didn’t do. She mentions that she could have been somewhere if Tuku had supported her – where is that? She should be grateful for whatever Tuku did for her because she could have been in a worse position. Tuku is only human and should be allowed to react like one – should he have swallowed his anger and let it poison him inside because of his fame? I don’t think so. The book will be a good read!

  13. shepiro September 15, 2014 at 9:40 pm #

    Tuku is right those girls have there houses n husband they should concerntrate there.Selmor leave your father n Daisy alone. Tonga kwawakaroorwa uko uone kuti vekwaManatsa vanoti kudii kurai mhai. Vakakura vachitakura mangai ne maputi havadaro nei. Tinyarewo kana iko kwawakaroorwa vachakudzinga sembwa.

  14. angozo September 16, 2014 at 5:47 am #

    Another angle to this is they are creating hype before the launch of the book tose tomhanya kuno tenga.

  15. masa chanza September 16, 2014 at 9:16 am #

    l think Mabasa is right,Selmor when l you going to grow up? are you still a child who is still sucking your mothers breast.Why fight your mothers battle why?.You should remember you are a family woman think of the future of your family. your husband and your children if you have any.

  16. maita September 16, 2014 at 5:08 pm #

    One thing I have come to appreciate is whether we like it or not no child will appreciate the divorce of their mother more so because of another woman not because of her own problems. Ndinoziva vana vakatoti kuna baba amai havaende even though the mother got pregnant by another man but that is what children are they protect their mother. They have more of their mother’s blood than father. Tuke should have understood. This is a biography the daughters did not go to the press they had an honest interview with an author.

  17. ej September 17, 2014 at 2:31 pm #

    I think its being very unfair blame took basing his daughters’ versions of the story. We have all been wronged by our parents one way or another but we did not make it public dose. No one is perfect, not even one. I think the girls are just bitter about their mother not being the lady now in Tuku’s life. It is a natural phenomenal that in every marriage breakdown kids normally girls blame the father even if it is not his fault.

    If the book is giving a true picture of Tuku’s life, I would like to encourage the Super Star to take as it is and the nation will not crucify him for that but only conclude that all people have their short comings in life.

  18. zvazviri September 20, 2014 at 9:01 pm #

    arikuda mari. tuku usamupe

  19. Mzukuru September 22, 2014 at 11:19 am #

    The only person who can work on the father daughters relationship is Selmor”s mother. Only her can tell her daughters to forgive and/ or respect their father. Amai chiwororo, can build bridge or burn it and mostly intentionally. No child, especially girls and more so brought up by a single mother does go against mama’s position. They girls have their mother’s blessings and brag about it as they discuss how to nail Tuku where it hurts most. He who doesn’t know the power of a woman was brought up by a father or in an orphanage. Selmor has it all. She nurtured the bitterness in her chidren over the years and this is just a manifestation of the girls mother’s input.

    Its a pity for this kind of bitterness is dangerous as it is usually carried into marriage, poor Manatsa family. Muroora has issues bear with her, help her.

    When it suited Selmor she faithfully attended music lessons with a horrible father, REALLY?????

  20. Campion Mupfunya September 25, 2014 at 2:40 pm #

    Vana ngavasapindire ma affairs evabereki. They do not know the reason why the two decided to divorce. Maybe the relationship was like oil and water, incompatibility at its worst. This is all because of jealous that the daughters are acting so strange. They must love each other as a family including Daisy and her kids as well. “”ONE BIG FAMILY””” Inga Nzou vakaimba wani “”””Shanje hadzivake musha kaaani”””

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