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Are you looking in the right places?

Do you find yourself waiting for the right moment? The ideal relationship? The perfect job? Are you waiting for your “real” life to begin? Do you think that the gifts of life are right around the corner? That one day you will arrive and everything will be okay? Do you endlessly search, yet never seem to find?

inspiration with Cynthia C Hakutangwi

One can meet people online as they purposefully join different social media networks
One can meet people online as they purposefully join different social media networks

What are you waiting for?

Are you waiting for the night to end itself? For the light of day to creep into your sleepy eyes and bring you back to life? Are you really waiting for your loved one to change? For their heart to grow softer and their words to decode into the fairy-tale dream you’d always hoped for? Are you waiting for the opportunity to grow legs and a mind of its own and find your address? Are you waiting for the rest of the world to realise how much amazing you are keeping locked within your swirling thoughts and back-burner dreams? Are you waiting for the stars to align, for the timing to be just right, or for that thing that’s meant to be to find its way? Maybe it’s lost. Maybe you’re lost. But sitting around and waiting to be found won’t get you very far. Waiting for things and people and times to change will leave you running in circles over and over and over again. The opportunity won’t grow legs, but, fortunately you have a set of your own. You have beautiful legs and a beautiful mind and I think it’s time you unlocked your amazing, picked your dreams up off the back-burner, and used the passion in your heart to set them on fire.

Pursue opportunities

Our human tendency is to wait for life and to look outside ourselves for answers. So we don’t try enough and we easily give up. We sell out and we forget who we are. We are afraid to succeed, afraid to fail, and afraid to say we are afraid. People often wait for opportunities. There will always be opportunities for those who recognise and pursue them. The fortunate people are simply those who have taken more chances than average. All of us are born with a need for love and acceptance. We were created this way. Because of this innate need, many of us spend our lives looking for love — sometimes in all the wrong places. We want to belong, to be part of something or someone. We seek acceptance and a sense of belonging wherever we go. Being driven by this need can cause all kinds of problems. It might lead us to cling to our children, smothering rather than loving them and stifling their growth and development. Or it might tempt us to live in a fantasy world, dreaming of a knight in shining armour who will fill the void in our lives. This need may cause us to look to others for affirmation: family members, friends, co-workers and so on. We rely on their esteem to convince ourselves we are worthy of esteem.

Open your eyes

There is a lot more happening in the world than you see. Maybe the person sitting next to you is your next business partner or your husband/wife or your new best friend. You just never know, life is unpredictable, and that’s why you should always keep your eyes wide open. You might miss an opportunity simply because you were too busy. Always be on the lookout even when doing simple activities. Take time to meet new people. If you want to be presented with more opportunities, simply meet new people. The more people you know; the higher chances you will be presented with new experiences. Go to meetings with people having similar interests as you. Visit conferences. You can even meet people online as you purposefully join different social media networks.

You can create the opportunity for almost anything

Most of us wait for the right opportunity to come. We wait for an opportunity to be offered a better position or a better job. We wait for an opportunity to make more money. We wait for the right woman or man. We wait for the opportunity to start something new. Does the opportunity ever come? Sometimes it does, but sometimes it doesn’t. It might not come at the right time. We might not recognise it. We might not be ready for it. When it eventually appears, we might not be interested in it anymore. You wait passively for something to happen. Why just daydream and not go beyond the dream? Why become disappointed and unhappy because nothing happens? You can create opportunities! Often, it is not a matter of creating them, but becoming aware of them. Often, they are there all the time, in front of us, but we do not recognise them. Seeing them and recognising them requires a change of your mindset. When you want something very strongly, and focus on it, things start happening. You need to define what you want. If you don’t know what exactly you want, how can you get it? When you know what you want, you will recognise the opportunities. Visualise your goal as already accomplished. Feel it, and enjoy it. This will motivate and energise you to make it real. When you have motivation, energy and enthusiasm, you see opportunities, which you haven’t seen before. People you meet would sense your enthusiasm, and would open new doors for you. If you want to find friends, you create the opportunity by mixing with people, not by staying at home. You create the opportunity, by rehearsing in your mind how to talk and behave, so that they are attracted to you. You can create the opportunity for almost anything with the right attitude and the right thinking.

Don’t wait to be discovered

The opportunity to be discovered is out there… for anyone! And that means you! But first you have to change your mindset. If you have something to offer, make yourself discoverable. Be easy to find! In the end it all comes to doing. You will never get presented with opportunities by sitting and moping around all day. Go out, feel, see, be and take part in life. If you are active and always on the lookout, you will always end up on the right place in the right moment.

Cynthia Hakutangwi is a communications and personal development consultant, life coach, author and strategist. Want more great tips and resources on improving balance, energy, organisation, health fitness, relationships, focus, faith and happiness? Wholeness Incorporated Coaching offers you strategies and simple steps you can implement today to become a better, more balanced, happier version of yourself. E-mail: cynthia@wholenessinc.com. Facebook: Wholeness Incorporated.

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