By Munyaradzi Madzokere
The marriage institution is under siege with the number of divorces shooting through the roof.
Countless schools of thought have tried to come up with theories of why so many marriages are failing and the situation continues unabated.
Zimbabwean cleric and marriage coach Leopold Enson has penned a gem of a book titled Becoming One that gives a fresh and compelling perspective on the subject of marriage which seeks to totally transform the institution.
The book is divided into three parts, Becoming You, Finding Each Other and Becoming One. Helping couples to look within themselves first, then discover their partner and ultimately become one. This book is highly therapeutic in its approach.
Other frequently overlooked topics such as intimacy, vulnerability, secrets, nakedness and sex among others take a whole new eye opening dimension in the book.
But the heart of the book lies in the profound desire to see couples journeying towards achieving oneness of purpose in marriage.
The book is set to be released this week.
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“The book has no intention of improving marriages, but seeks to accomplish a total transformation of perceptions, mindsets and beliefs around marriages.
Becoming one is not arrived at accidentally. It entails growing together, developing the ability to function as a couple, as well as navigating differences in order to build,” Enson told Standard Style.
“Marriage must be future focused, functional, fruitful and fulfilling.
“What motivated the writing of this book is the influx of mediocre marriages and the realisation that most marriages exist in the monotony of routine.
“If two are better than one, why should marriage collapse and not yield positive results?”
Perhaps the reason why most marriages fail is because most couples who are generally separate entities completely fail to navigate the journey of becoming a better form of one to be a ‘dominion couple’.
The book Becoming One tackles an avalanche of sticky issues that create a barrier between two people in a marital union and prevent them from attaining oneness.
“One of the biggest challenge is vulnerability. Most people are closed to their spouse because of the shame of past relationships, past hurts and traumas,” he said.
“The weight of shame and embarrassment must never exist when one is vulnerable to their spouse. It must be known that marriage is the only institution where nakedness without shame is celebrated and promoted.
“A husband is not less of a man if he earns less than his wife. Marriage is about mutual development between the couple and the whole world must not know who earns more or less.
“Differences and similarities are also discussed in the book. If a couple is going to be one they must have similarities based on fundamentals and also be different generally. In marriage couples don’t lose their individuality but individualism must never outweigh the interdependent nature of marriage life.”
Becoming One is a must-read for couples whose union is trapped in dullness, on the verge of collapse and one that does not want to remain ordinary.
It also a book that carries a lot of wisdom nuggets for singles who are looking forward to embark this adventure of growth. Enson uses well-crafted fictional novellas that depict real life situations and challenges universally bombarding the marriage institution in some chapters to make the book more enjoyable and easy on the eye.
One would also discover how little the world understands about sex as God intended it in this book and also why the bible refers to sex as “knowing”.
It also exposes how the devil seeks to destroy and corrupt the gift of sex.
The timing of the book is somewhat impeccable considering the spike in divorces and marital dysfunction all over the world since the outbreak of the Covid-19 pandemic.
Enson is a marriage coach and wedding officiant as well as the visionary of Royal Families, a marriage-based organisation.
Becoming One is the first of a catalogue of books on marriage that he intends to publish.
