In life, the things that contaminate us the most are not necessarily agents that force themselves on us. Growing up in rural Zimbabwe herding goats, sheep and cattle — one of my greatest life lessons in those years spent with nature in solitude is that the things that damage us the most are those worthless deposits that we fail to expel from our system until they become toxic enough to destroy us at the core. Whether you have ingested abuse, betrayal or unfair treatment from an individual or organisation, you need to make a choice to release it from your system before you become toxic. Release it all and allow the freshness of your Creator’s promises to restore you to wholeness.
By Cynthia Hakutangwi
In technology, the reset button is a button or switch built into electronic devices that allows you to reset the device to its original stable settings. On a computer, when you press the reset button the computer will enter its start-up procedure as if you had turned the power off and then on again. Generally, you would use the reset button only when a program error has caused your computer to hang.
From my experiences in herding flocks, one of the most important things I learnt is that you always have to be alert of the animals’ whereabouts and what pastures they are feeding from at any given time. Failure to do that could result in very grievous episodes. I used to herd a very stubborn bunch of goats that would not hesitate to stray to the nearest vegetable garden that caught their sight if you just allowed yourself to snooze for a moment. I also used to have a very notorious but exotic Brahman bull that had a knack for eating plastics. It would spend days thereafter in constipated pain until it got human assistance to expel the plastics from its system.
Dealing with life’s stale spots
As soon as you realise that you have hit a stale spot in your life, you need to immediately begin the relentless pursuit of not just a mere refreshed perspective on life, but better still, a total refreshing of your life direction. There is so much fear that is associated with refreshing one’s life because of the fear of losing the things that we have accumulated and become comfortable with for so many years of our lives. Strangely, some of these accumulated pieces are the very reasons why we have hit a stale spot because they have continued to weigh down so heavily upon us yet we feel that we risk losing our identity when we let them go. For some of us, it could be the stories of abuse, neglect, treachery and wrongs done against us. We still want to meditate on, regurgitate and retell everyone how deeply wounded we are and somehow our recounting of the episodes of misery bring a weird consolation. We need to be very careful to separate who we are from what we have gone through. Whilst our experiences will shape our life journey by default, those same experiences do not have the authority to mould us until or unless we give them that definitive, authoritative role.
Processing toxic files
There are some damaged files that we keep processing in our life’s central processing unit which we should have trashed out of the system days, weeks, months or decades ago. Yet sadly, we continue to allow them to circulate in our system, regularly passing through our most delicate, vital and precious organs to be pumped out back again into the veins of our thoughts, feelings and emotions. Who would we really be blaming for the toxic waste we carry in our hearts and thought life?
These toxic substances are responsible for the lack of wholeness we experience in our bodies and emotions, which is why some of us have many hidden toes and venomous tongues and emotions that erupt at the slightest provocation. When we continue to replay files of trauma, we can only expect to hallucinate even in our most wide awake moments. Naturally, this intoxicated condition repels the good and well-meaning people in our lives. Even more, this paradigm will attract those things that we claim to detest and abhor the most because our state of toxicity emits certain fragrances in the intangible realm which attract the very disorder that we claim we don’t want to have in our lives.
Detoxing every life dimension
The act of erasing requires a determined effort to completely delete what you do not want to see manifesting. We cannot expect anyone to undertake that action for us because we ourselves are better acquainted with the writings that exist on the walls of our inner being.
Detoxing all these life dimensions requires a boldness to confront issues and a deliberate personal effort to remove what you don’t want to see in your life. The root of our contamination lies in the damaging things that we internalise and allow to take permanent residence inside of us. Once they take permanent residence in our internal realm, they derail and corrupt our progress. While we are not computerised devices that encounter programme errors and hang, admittedly our life processes periodically inject certain viral objects into our system. As we move towards the end of the first quarter of the year, our progress or lack of it will be determined by the efforts we make to not only confront the things that have contaminated our wholeness, but to delete, erase and rest our life controls for a refreshed and wholesome life.
l Cynthia Hakutangwi is a communications and personal development consultant, life coach, author, and strategist. She is the managing consultant of Wholeness Incorporated. Her published book titles include, The Whole You – Vital Keys for Balanced Living and Intelligent Conversations: A Mindset Shift towards a Developed Africa. She is co-author of Success Within Reach. E-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org. Facebook: Wholeness Incorporated. Website: www.wholenessinc.com